Author: optimisticduelist

defilerwyrm:

Let people grow.

When I was younger I was very right-wing. I mean…very right-wing. I won’t go into detail, because I’m very deeply ashamed of it, but whatever you’re imagining, it’s probably at least that bad. I’ve taken out a lot of pain on others; I’ve acted in ignorance and waved hate like a flag; I’ve said and did things that hurt a lot of people.

There are artefacts of my past selves online – some of which I’ve locked down and keep around to remind me of my past sins, some of which I’ve scrubbed out, some of which are out of my grasp. If I were ever to become famous, people could find shit on me that would turn your stomach.

But that’s not me anymore. I’ve learned so much in the last ten years. I’ve become more open to seeing things through others’ eyes, and reforged my anger to turn on those who harm others rather than on those who simply want to exist. I’ve learned patience and compassion. I’ve learned how to recognise my privileges and listen to others’ perspectives. I’ve learned to stand up for others, how to hear, how to help, how to correct myself. And I learned some startling shit about myself along the way – with all due irony, some of the things I used to lash out at others for are intrinsic parts of myself.

You wouldn’t know what I am now from what I was then. You wouldn’t know what I was then from what I am now.

It distresses me deeply to think of someone dredging up my dark, awful past and treating me as though that furiously hateful person is still me. It distresses me to see others dredging up the past for anyone who has made efforts to become a better person, out of some sick obsession with proving they’re “problematic.”

Purity culture tells you that once someone says or does something, they can never go back on it. That’s a goddamn lie. While it’s true that some remain unrepentant and never change their ways and continue to harm others, it’s important to allow everyone the chance to learn from their mistakes. Saying something ignorant isn’t murder. Please stop treating it that way. Let people grow.

nonbinaryglitch:

A young girl awakes in her room, it’s a very pleasant November morning and there’s quite frankly no way that it could possibly go wrong! Infact, she’s certain it’s going to be as ordinary as every other day around this empty house. 

 There are many chores that will need tackling if she’s feeling up to it but there’s also a lot of fun to be had! Maybe she can even recount the dream she had last night. 

 What should she do?

The new interactive fanventure: Joey’s Adventure is now live on the Hiveswap discord, fans will be able to submit votes for actions and after a 24 hour period, the one with the most votes will be selected. Updates will come Monday and Friday.

Link to the Hiveswap Discord can be found in this post.

This is looking awesome, and I’m really glad we get to host it! Feel free to come check it out 😀 

I just wanted to thank you, because of you I started to have warmer feelings about Jake and see that we’re pretty similar and I think being selfish isn’t necessarily bad. I’m a selfish person and as long as I don’t hurt others I’m good with this trait of mine. I can do good things having selfish motives and it’s ok. I used to be mad at Jake but your reading of him gives me more understanding of his actions and I can relate to him. I also love Dirk and now I feel comfortable shipping them again.

Aw dang this made me get all weepy for a bit. I’m glad I was able to help! Encouraging people to fall in love with these characters all over again is pretty much why I decided to start doing this so it always makes my day and renews my determination when I hear someone else is enjoying the story more as a result of my writing. 

And yeah I don’t really think being selfish or self-focused is necessarily bad. Being aware of one’s own tendencies is a good thing, especially if you can be honest enough about them to know when you need to course correct (and that can happen in either direction.) 

landofsomethingsomething:

rosmarinjaeger:

Discourse: Who walks Rose down the aisle?

A) Dave

B) Roxy

C) No one, Rose waits at the altar and Karkat walks Kanaya.

– rose waits at the altar and watches as kanaya walks up in her amazing gown solo and the two of them rock the show on their own no accompaniment required

– rose waits at the altar and kanaya and karkat awkwardly trundle up the aisle having no idea if they are doing this human ceremony correctly, bumping into each other, karkat practically runs back to his seat

– rose & kanaya walk up together with roxy on rose’s arm and karkat on kanaya’s. OR dave is on rose’s arm BECAUSE ROXY IS OFFICIATING, BAM. (dave also practically runs back to his seat.) OR dirk is on rose’s arm b/c rose thought it would be hilarious to make him perform this role, look, it’s traditional in the most subversive way possible and that’s appealing ok

– BASICALLY ANY COMBO OF ALL THIS IS DELIGHTFUL 

– the other 3 strilondes just load rose over their heads and carry her down the aisle like a cartoon