a little confused as to what that actually Is? does it define who you are as a person, who you are at your core?

how does one go about finding their Aspect even?

For the former, I’d say it’s a little of column A, a little of column B. The best way to pick a classpect, in my personal opinion, is to look for that reflects your strengths AND ALSO inspires you to do better. Everybody does a little of everything, but everyone also shines at particular things–and those are usually things they happen to like doing! But that’s going to be different for everyone, and taking that approach only FOR SURE worked for me.

For the latter, I’d say how does anyone find their bender type in Avatar fandom? Just play around with whatever Aspects resonate with you and whatever concepts sound cool. If all of them do, then great! You have a multitude of lenses through which to view yourself and understand your own strengths and potential.

Also, not trying to be pedantic, but on the chance that you genuinely mixed them up I may as well say you meant ‘Strive’ in that one sentence, not ‘Strife’. Just tryin’ to be helpful.

I guess my real advice is: keep in mind that whatever you identify with can change, and ultimately the whole endeavor is just for fun. Don’t stress yourself out about it!